When I was a kid in the 90s/00s, I was basically a shy nerdy (later to be determined as autistic) twink.
Almost all my friends were girls, because… almost all the guys I knew were rude macho assholes.
… I guess I am an outlier, possibly along with my friend group, but uh, I did get invited to, and attend, a good number of slumber/cuddle parties.
I know this may sound unbelievable, but they really were just cuddling, no hardcore sexual acts.
Well ok, one time a female friend of one of my female friends, who I hadn’t met before… we ended up making out and fondling each other, but our clothes stayed on, I swear!
same so much rn omg i’m getting a heart attack >:3 🥲
i don’t like to make this edit because i really really understand the vibe of your comment and want to go along with it; however i unfortunately have to report that the rampant levels of reporting about “sexual harassment” have led many girls my age when i was a teenager to basically have a deep hatred for all men, or so it seemed. i remember a few incidences where i clearly got along nicely with people but we couldn’t get closer because of some stupid societal rules that instruct women to be afraid of all men. stupid times we live in. (i’m saying this because these complaints should be heard. the fight that was superficially and supposedly about “women’s rights” has inflicted incredible damage on some things.)
I absolutely believe you as i had a rommie with which i cuddled. She told me that she is not attracted to me at all so there was no thoughts about romance or sex. I loved it and i miss it but i also have to admit that my very stupid brain would fall in love with any women (not related to me) that cuddles with me repeatedly.
and this is why i consider a partner a prerequisite for a lot of my improved mental health, my lizard brain needs that… hole… filled before it can quiet down and let me get on with things.
Sad thing that if you grow up male (altleast in most western countries), you will be hard pressed to find friends to cuddle with. Fuck me i guess.
When I was a kid in the 90s/00s, I was basically a shy nerdy (later to be determined as autistic) twink.
Almost all my friends were girls, because… almost all the guys I knew were rude macho assholes.
… I guess I am an outlier, possibly along with my friend group, but uh, I did get invited to, and attend, a good number of slumber/cuddle parties.
I know this may sound unbelievable, but they really were just cuddling, no hardcore sexual acts.
Well ok, one time a female friend of one of my female friends, who I hadn’t met before… we ended up making out and fondling each other, but our clothes stayed on, I swear!
same so much rn omg i’m getting a heart attack >:3 🥲
i don’t like to make this edit because i really really understand the vibe of your comment and want to go along with it; however i unfortunately have to report that the rampant levels of reporting about “sexual harassment” have led many girls my age when i was a teenager to basically have a deep hatred for all men, or so it seemed. i remember a few incidences where i clearly got along nicely with people but we couldn’t get closer because of some stupid societal rules that instruct women to be afraid of all men. stupid times we live in. (i’m saying this because these complaints should be heard. the fight that was superficially and supposedly about “women’s rights” has inflicted incredible damage on some things.)
I absolutely believe you as i had a rommie with which i cuddled. She told me that she is not attracted to me at all so there was no thoughts about romance or sex. I loved it and i miss it but i also have to admit that my very stupid brain would fall in love with any women (not related to me) that cuddles with me repeatedly.
and this is why i consider a partner a prerequisite for a lot of my improved mental health, my lizard brain needs that… hole… filled before it can quiet down and let me get on with things.
sad for the people that struggle to find a partner
i am sad