I just recently had some awful DM harassment from a transphobic idiot who told me that I was pretending to be trans. It was dealt with but I’m still left wondering. Why do some people believe that we would pretend to be trans? What do they think someone would gain by “pretending” to be trans. It just seems so stupid because I’ve dealt with so much oppression and people invalidating me my whole life, and yet they still think I’m pretending to be trans for some some reason…? Why? What the fuck does someone gain from pretending to be trans? This makes no fucking sense whatsoever.

Sorry for this rant, I really needed to get this off my chest.

  • grue@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    22 days ago

    I never doubted that trans (or LGBT+ people in general) weren’t pretending simply because it seems like it would be such a pain in the ass to subject yourself to all the stigma of not conforming to heteronormativity unless you were damned serious about it.

    However, even if I had doubted it, the last panel of this comic would’ve convinced me:

    Any cis guy who can be exposed to that argument and still claim to doubt is just a fucking bigoted liar.

    • kakler bitmap@lemmy.worldEnglish
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      22 days ago

      Just to throw this out there - you do not need to have surgery to be trans or to deserve validation

      ETA: not trying to knock the comic, just wanted to stress the point, as I’ve met plenty of people who seen to believe if you’ve not had surgery then you’re still not really trans

  • Embargo@lemm.eeEnglish
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    23 days ago

    My dad’s hot take on trans people was that they’re transitioning to upset their parents. I’m not trans but this shit got me so pissed and is maybe the dumbest and most offensive shit I’ve ever heard him say. I’m sorry that you’re in a position where people feel they can offload horrible marginalising garbage onto you. You’re absolutely right… It makes no fucking sense.

  • Sophie@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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    23 days ago

    I mean we get the chasers, being banned from sports, degradation… It goes on and on, who wouldn’t want to be trans🤷‍♀️

    Sarcasm aside, they heard an old guy say it so that’s what they know about trans people.

    • SendPrudes@lemm.eeEnglish
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      21 days ago

      Yeah am a cis dude - and have been peppering my friends groups with clear and concise factual data around the issues and it still doesn’t matter so I sadly think the issue is deeper.

      I try to present intersex and gonadal disgenesis in a manner that directly conflicts with the executive order (2 Immutable Biologies) and then ask them who should decide for those folks specifically, the government? I then explain that’s just the “visual tip of the iceberg” and everyone else is below the waters surface with unique hormones / psychologies / biologies and neurochemistry.

      The thing is - even in clear scenarios I provide - they still resist or hate. I’ve been pretty disenchanted / disappointed with folks I used to value lately.

  • aurelia@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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    21 days ago

    I truly pretend to be trans after getting rid of my factory equipment downstairs and got a new custom made glove box.