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Cake day: June 28th, 2023

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  • Right, but they’re conservatives. Complaining about their hypocrisy is like complaining about clouds blocking the sun. Redefining your values based on your identity is the unifying feature of conservativism. That’s what makes it appealing, you don’t have to adhere to any fundamental values or policies. Whatever helps you win today is good, because you’re a good person because you’re a conservative. So whatever you say now is good, and if you have to say something else tomorrow, it will be good then, too.

    States’ Rights is especially fraught because progressives also vacillate on the issue depending on how much of the government they can influence. I’m not a bOtH SiDeS person, but on that one issue, both sides ride that pendulum.







  • First, you can always decline. It’s your time, and they aren’t paying you to work at a bowling alley, so you don’t have to be there.

    Second, remote team meetups are a really good time to bond with your coworkers without a business agenda. I would recommend to anyone to try to make an appearance, even if you don’t stay out as late as everyone else. Plus, if everyone is hung over the next day at work, and you show up bright eyed and bushy tailed, you look like the smart one, although your coworkers might give you the side eye if you rub it in. Being compassionate goes a long way towards that bonding bit.

    It’s also easier to communicate when you have personal relationships with your remote coworkers. When you write a curt slack message, or a status update email, people will read it in your voice. That might also work against you if you tend to be sarcastic or belligerent. If they don’t know you, they will read it in their own voice, and that can go sideways.

    You don’t have to bowl. You don’t need to claim an old injury. Just say you don’t enjoy it (because that’s true).

    All that said, it doesn’t sound like you did anything wrong. It doesn’t sound like your coworkers did anything wrong, either, and you were definitely “invited” anytime there is an announcement like that.