<waves hands mystically>

this is the least Pythagorean meme

if you need a silver lining: this bill only has one sponsor and is not likely to be cosponsored such that it can leave committee, let alone survive a vote and be passed.

Even in that worst case scenario, it would be immediately challenged by the courts, from the article:

H.B. 3399, if enacted, would likely face immediate lawsuits on the grounds of violating the Fourteenth Amendment’s Equal Protection Clause. The bill’s sweeping language could also trigger conflicts with federal anti-discrimination protections in healthcare.

it’s just a lazy copypasta of the anti-gay agenda from decades past 🫠

they use all the same rhetoric: accusing gay trans people of grooming children, of being sexual predators, of flaunting their perversion in public, etc.

and even before the anti-gay movement of the 1970s (see for example Anita Bryant, I recommend the ContraPoints video on this topic), the Nazis used pretty much the same rhetoric:

And like today’s digital fires, those flames were not lit without years of prior hate. Four years before the book burnings, one of the earliest editions of Der Stürmer—the Nazi propaganda publication that fueled fascism’s rise—accused Hirschfeld of “grooming” youth, echoing today’s attacks on LGBTQ+ people. Hitler notoriously called Hirschfeld “the world’s most dangerous Jew.” Trans and queer people were the canaries in the coalmine of atrocity. Similarly, just a few years ago, the “groomer” slur ignited online, feeding a growing trans panic that has only escalated since.

It does at times seem like transphobes and homophobes violently project their discomfort with finding trans and gay people sexually appealing onto trans and gay victims, but there are actual data to support this:

https://lawsuit.org/general-law/republicans-have-an-obsession-with-transgender-pornography/

While I think this could partially explain some of the hatred, I don’t think it’s a simple narrative. Similar to the idea that homophobes are just closeted gays, while that might explain the psychology of some homophobes, I don’t think we can apply it broadly without more evidence. The reality is that transphobia and homophobia survive and thrive due to a diversity of psychological reasons, a single explanation is likely to fail.

/u/shave_your_eyebrows is such a cursed name, giving me early '00s salad fingers vibes 😱

Don’t let capitalism get its tendrils so far into your mind that you think that you have to be a customer to exist.

this is a great way to put it

<shudders>

Who is this artist!? I feel like I should know at this point, they are one of the top trans artists I see…

one sentence horrors

you just need a Lemmy version of /r/LetBoysBeManipulated :-)

I rank this art style as less disturbing than /u/OnceInOnceSet’s but more disturbing than /u/Brooke-Valley’s, lol

not saying that, just saying that we don’t give a win to the fascists even if the Democrats are right-wing enablers

yes, the liberal pearl-clutching is facilitated by ignorance, but it’s not exactly pragmatic in this moment as the U.S. is turning autocratic to side with the fascists in claiming America …

to be fair, trans people are like 1% of the population, it’s not like trans folks make up a big market for anything

EDIT: nor should we take this to mean anything, capitalism is not for us and we don’t need it; we existed before capitalism, we will exist after capitalism.

I think the only problem is that Folx and Plume are extremely over-priced. DIY is much cheaper, for example, as is going to a normal doctor with insurance.

You will have to tell your family physician eventually once you start to medically transition, or if that’s really not an option, you will have to find a new primary care physician (PCP) who you are willing to work with.

If you want to see an endocrinologist, it starts by getting a referral to the endo by either your PCP, or sometimes by a psychiatrist.

I live in the southeastern U.S. and here we have the Trans in the South Guide. I was in a similar position as you when my egg broke: older, supportive spouse, but not much else - I tend to be a hermit and cloister myself.

I used the Trans in the South Guide to find an endocrinologist in my area, and I called my PCP and told them I have gender dysphoria and I would like to be referred to the particular endo that was in the directory. By sheer luck my PCP was trans-affirming, and by coincidence already has some other trans patients (though I am his first trans woman patient).

The city I live in has a local LGBT+ Pride group, and there is a trans support group that meets - I started to go to support group meetings and just talked to people.

Connecting with your local community is usually the best way to find out which providers are good, which are bad, which insurance companies are good and which are bad, etc.

So first of all, find your local pride group, start going to regular in-person meetups and get to know people. You can ask questions there, but you will also get to hear people’s stories as they have tried to navigate what you’re about to go through. Even if there is no trans-specific group, just going to LGBT+ events will hopefully increase the odds of meeting other trans people that you can network with. Forming a group chat (or getting invited to one) was really helpful for collecting and sharing resources.

Finding a psychologist that works with trans patients is important, but the advice is about the same: research online (my local pride group has a directory of providers, I actually used the Trans in the South Guide to find my psychologist), and connect with community to benefit from word of mouth (talk to people and ask which therapists they went to, who they recommend, etc.).

I had to change my initial therapist because, even though she was trans affirming, she had never written letters or dealt with the bureaucratic process of patients going through surgeries - I needed someone with more experience because I was not prepared to guide them through that myself.

If you have to move forward and none of the recommended people work, you can always just take the risk and try to see a provider that hasn’t been vetted. Worst case scenario, you can try to navigate this with heuristics: in my experience a provider is more likely to be safe if they are younger, queer themselves, and / or a woman. It seems like straight, older, and male doctors are more likely to be overtly transphobic (obviously this is not always true, these are just stereotypes to fall back on help guide you when all else fails - there are plenty of counter-examples, my endo was old and male, my PCP is straight and male, etc.).

Much luck to you dear, I wish you abundant gender euphoria in your future.

aw, thanks - your question got me curious and had me digging into the details 😅 Glad you appreciate it!! 🥰

and ruin all the beautiful scenarios my imagination prefers to write?

aw, thanks! it’s not a Witcher reference, but I’m glad you like it 🥰

I do think community could be a way to help with this, but where is the time and money for that?

I think the most likely outcome is that the influx of guns will have negative impacts like they do to other marginalized groups. It’s even harder to help the trans community with this considering we are more dispersed and less likely to live collectively or in similar areas, unlike ghettos where marginalized people of color are concentrated.

Honestly, it wouldn’t be a bad idea for training and resources to be provided to all gun owners, considering the harms are not unique to trans people even if they are more intense for us - but again, it assumes trans people even have the time, money, energy, etc. to utilize that training.

There is no control rate for violence motivated by a trans identity for cis people, since cis people do not usually experience violence motivated by a trans identity.

Here is the report: https://countingourselves.nz/wp-content/uploads/2025/02/Counting-Ourselves-2022-Findings.pdf

If you read through it, some of the other statistics are compared with the general population. Please remember this is localized to New Zealand, and is based on self-reporting in a survey.

Here are some of the comparisons to general population:

44% of participants experienced discrimination in the last 12 months, more than double the rate reported by the general population (21%). Over one-third (35%) of participants who experienced discrimination said this was related to being trans or non-binary.

56% of participants reported feeling unsafe or very unsafe when waiting for or using public transport such as buses and trains at night. This was more than twice the rate for women (25%) and seven times the rate for men (8%) in the general population.

42% reported that someone had ever forced them, or tried to force them, to have sexual intercourse. This is more than twice the rate reported by the general population (16%). Trans women, trans men, and non-binary participants all experienced this at rates higher than for women and nearly five times higher or more than for men in the general population.

Regarding lifetime experiences (not just in the past 4 years):

Over half of participants (54%) had ever received threats of physical violence, and a similar amount had experienced attempts at physical violence towards them (48%) or deliberate physical violence (46%).

Regarding the last 4 years:

We asked participants about their experiences of physical violence due to being trans or non-binary. In the last 4 years, 19% of participants had received threats of physical violence because they were trans or non-binary. One in ten (10%) had faced attempts at physical violence, and 8% experienced deliberate physical violence because they were trans or non-binary.

Group differences for physical violence included:

• Trans women (25%) and disabled participants (25%) were more likely to have experienced threats of physical violence, while non-disabled participants (14%) were less likely to report this.
• Trans women (14%) and disabled participants (13%) were more likely to have had someone attempt to use physical violence against them, while non-binary (8%) and non-disabled participants (7%) were less likely to report this.
• Trans women (11%) and disabled participants (10%) were more likely to have experienced deliberate physical violence, while non-binary (6%) and non-disabled participants (6%) were less likely to report this.

These particular claims aren’t compared to threats people experience in the general population.

However, we can look up statistics for the general population in New Zealand and try to make our own comparison.

Women in particular seem to be the victims of violence in society (which bears out in the trans survey as well, trans women being more likely to experience threats and violence). Worldwide 1 in 3 women have been subjected to physical or sexual violence by a partner, or sexual violence by a non-partner (source).

In New Zealand, women make up 59% of violent crime victims while men are 38% (source).

Similar to world-wide statistics, it looks to be that 1 in 3 women in New Zealand experience intimate partner violence (source).

However, this is all a bit apples to oranges since the survey focused on violence against trans folks was talking about threats due to being trans, and in that sense it’s hard to compare to a cis control since the violence being reported was motivated by the trans identity of the victim.

We can, however, try to compare some of the other statistics, like lifetime incidence of violence (46 - 48%) to statistics like the number of adults who have experienced violence in New Zealand being between 6 - 7% (source):

The NZCVS also showed that a small group of people, just four percent of adults, experience the majority of crime, 56 percent of all incidents.

The number of adults who experienced personal violence has decreased slightly (six percent down from seven percent). But those six percent who experienced personal violence experienced more offences (29 offences per 100 adults, up from 19 offences per 100 adults a year ago). The same demographic groups (people who identify as LGBT+, people who are separated from a partner or spouse, and Māori) were significantly more likely to experience at least one incident of interpersonal violence.

It’s hard to get statistics that line up perfectly - violence reported over someone’s lifetime vs in the past year vs in the past four years makes it hard to reason about the exact differences, but it seems clear that the average adult in New Zealand is not experiencing violence at the same level as trans populations, and that women, indigenous, and LGBT+ folks make up most of the victims of violence.

So, it seems the violence is not evenly distributed.