• Dr. Wesker@lemmy.sdf.org
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    1 month ago

    I got banned from blahaj on my first week here, because I think “dude” isn’t necessarily a gendered term, and was willing to stand my ground on it. Mind you none of this was actually said on a blahaj thread, they just went out of their way.

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      1 month ago

      It may not be a gendered term for you, but it is for some. Standing your ground means being asked to stop by people who found it offensive, likely by feeling misgendered. I’m not surprised you were banned when you go to what’s meant to be a safe space and misgender people despite being asked to stop.

      That’s kind of the point of federation, though. They can have their space with their rules of moderation and language. Someone else can have a more open experience. Those that want a more complete experience but push their values on other instances will be banned from those instances. Blahaj has great content, but it’s often niche, and can be a little too moderated sometimes, but better to err on side of caution when many of the community have less ptions for where they jump to.

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        Standing your ground means being asked to stop by people who found it offensive, likely by feeling misgendered. I’m not surprised you were banned when you go to what’s meant to be a safe space and misgender people despite being asked to stop.

        None of what you just said actually happened, though.