Hi folks. I think my 16yo son has ADHD. He shows a lot of the classic behaviours. (Not listed for brevity)
He’s smart, performs well in class, but struggles badly with exams, detail. He is also struggling with revision. He’s been a high performing up until now but he’s hit hit the limit of his abilities.
His exams are 2 months away, we won’t get a diagnosis in time 😔
Can anyone here suggest resources or personal insights that could help me help him through this period?
Thanks!
Have you talked to the school? They may be able to help out, particularly if he’s already in the queue for a diagnosis. Maybe a note from your doctor would support this.
Help may be tuition support, guidance or even some extra time in the exam room - or doing the exam in a different area.
Anything you can do to stack the odds in your favor can help, and the worst they can day is ‘no’, so there’s nothing really to lose.
Finally, though exams are important, they are not the end of the world. They can be retaken later if necessary so try and remember to keep things in perspective and manage the stress accordingly.
Finally finally, good luck to you and your son.
We’ve talked about his situation, but not in a formal ‘he needs support’ kind of way. When he’s getting low As and Bs it’s really hard to talk about him not meeting his potential, I just look like a pushy parent.
I think what I’m mostly worrying about myself is that the future he wants for himself needs grades that he’s capable of intellectually, but not at the work rate he’s able to do today. I know that things usually work out, but it’s still hard in the moment to see that he might miss out on his dream goals.